If you came up to me and asked about my favorite memory from ASK, I could tell you about the spontaneous boba run we did after that one event, how competitive we got at the sisters scavenger hunt, or our retreat to LA where we tried to make cookies without a recipe. I could tell you about the seven straight hours we spent together during our installation or go into length about how my sisters planned a surprise party for my 21st birthday. I could talk about that moment when I installed a girl from my floor my first year who quickly grew into my best friend and became my current roommate and confidant. I could show you the video of the moment when I got my little and couldn’t stop smiling. I could even tell you about the time me and the former president freaked out about whether or not our interest group could ever be as a big as we hoped.
I could tell you all those memories and more, but to me those are just memories. To me, ASK is so much more than a bunch of highlights strung together throughout my years at UCSB. It isn’t about the events we hold, the fundraisers we run, or academic enrichment events where we teach each other what being a woman in STEM means to us.
To me, ASK is made up of all the little things, the daily reminders of what it means to be a part of this sisterhood. It’s the fact that although we are in different majors from distinct backgrounds with different career goals, we’re always there to support each other. It’s when my sisters brought me snacks and caffeine when I had to miss Bid day to spend 20 straight hours writing a pharm lab report. It’s waiting an extra ten minutes before we can start a meeting because even though we saw each other last week, we can’t help ourselves from catching up. It’s the pride I’ve felt as the Big Little coordinator making those first Big Little parings with Emi and seeing those pairings grow into families, each with their own distinct personalities. It’s seeing family lines posting Instagram stories about them cooking dinner together, going on a hike, or just studying together after I spent the last five weeks and a couple of mental breakdowns to find the perfect fit for each new candidate.
That’s what ASK is to me. It’s the community new sisters join and immediately find a home in. It’s the constant empathy and understanding from fellow sisters who know that sometimes academics come first and sometimes you just need to hang out with your sisters. It’s knowing that although this was something I spent the last three years of my life building, this is something I’ll always have with me to support me as I graduate from UCSB. That’s my favorite part of ASK.
Written by Sophie Mulligan
Sophie is a fourth year Pharmacology major on the pre-PA route and is the current Vice President. She’s also the head course assistant for SOC 152A, a scribe for a local nephrologist, and is working in the Montell Lab at UCSB to publish her research on drosophila melanogaster.